“I am your parent you are my child
I am your quiet place, you are my wild
I am your calm face, you are my giggle
I am your wait, you are my wiggle”
From the book, “You are my Love You,”
by Maryann K Cusimano
Along with all the awesome things Evan has been doing lately, has come a bit of a price. That price to be paid, is toddlerhood. Yup, he is 19 months old, but you could say he is in the “Terrible Almost Two’s” right now. Now, I am well aware that Evan can be a joy, in fact he really is a joy about 75% of the time and I feel very blessed for that. But that 25% can be a toughie. And as with most other things, the tough parts are the ones you seem to focus on instead of the joys. I am working to fix that for myself.
Anyway, the great part of all of this is that when he throws a fit because we take him away from the light cord, or because we don’t want him to touch the trash can lid; we realize he is displaying very typical, age appropriate behavior. Not because of any syndrome or delay, but just good old fashioned growing up. He is figuring out that he has ‘wants’ and if he cannot have them right when he decides he wants them, he is piping mad! He does this fake cry that I wish I could somehow put into words because it is pretty classic. He could give Olivia Hussey a run for her money in the 1968 Romeo and Juliet movie. Come on, she was a ridiculous crier, you have to admit that. He also has attempted to bite a few times, but we have deemed it is more out of a sensory oral motor need than out of anger or aggression. We are keeping an eye on it.
I think we have been struggling a bit with the new behaviors because Evan has been the exception to the rule most of the time with his love of strangers, no separation anxiety, loving car rides, etc. We have felt so lucky. So when he started throwing tantrums our first instinct was to assume something was wrong. I was checking his mouth constantly for teeth, blaming myself for altering his schedule. Todd thought we should add back in a second nap, that there must be some solution, right?
Nope. We just have to live through this stage, however long it might be, just like the waking up 4 times a night stage. Phew, thank goodness both aren’t happening at the same time!
Some great things that have been happening as a result of Toddler Evan coming to stay-
– can climb up on the couch himself
– copies us laughing and coughing
-will take our hands and hand over hand show us what he needs help with or what he wants us to do
-can get on and off his rocking horse himself
– is clapping
-is taking turns while rolling a wheel back and forth.
-is dropping items into containers regularly
-is sitting nicely for reading of books, no more flipping the books all over while we try to read. (well most of the time)
-feeding himself with a spoon with a little help from mom or dad
We love him, Toddler Evan, Baby Evan, whichever Evan he plans to be today. He is our wiggle, our wild, our giggle, our child.
Oh how he is our wiggle…. 😉